I have always enjoyed cooking and never found a recipe that I was not willing to at least try once. From the simple to the complex, I have tried all types. That does not mean I have not had my fair share of disasters in the kitchen. Just ask my husband about the time I tried to make Chili Rellenos from scratch on a Sunday afternoon in between services. I think we ended up eating PB&J.
Of all the cooking terms out there, one that has always stuck out to me is “Let the flavors marry.” It sticks out because even though we are talking about recipes and food, we could take the fundamentals of this cooking technique and apply it to our marriages as husbands and wives.
Allowing the flavors to marry in cooking is when you mix two things together. Let us look at three basic things that happen when we do this. The flavors become forever linked together, the flavors become stronger and the flavors become developed. These same basic principles apply to our lives as husbands and wives.
When we join together as husband and wife in marriage, we become forever linked. We see the Bible teaches, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh’; so then they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate” (Mark 10:7-9). God joins us together when we are married and that is a bond that man cannot separate.
By being linked together with our spouse we become stronger like the flavors in a recipe. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 is talking about friendship but it applies to marriage. “Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; but how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
My eleventh wedding anniversary is next month, so I speak from experience when I say marriage isn’t always easy. Being married allows us to grow and develop in our Christian walk together. Together is an important word. It means we can be accountable to each other and help when we see that our partner is struggling. It means we can go to our spouse when we are having a hard time. It means we always have someone there to share in our joys or in our sorrows, and someone who knows our deepest secrets.
As we go through our daily lives let us remember this little phrase “Let the flavors marry.” It will then bring to our remembrance three things. As husbands and wives we are forever linked by God. We become stronger because God has joined us together, and we develop and grow together in marriage.